The Hidden Mental Effects of Perfectionism

Freddy Murphy

Beyond The Blues

It is easy to slide right into the flawed assumption that we must be perfect to be acceptable within a culture that idolizes what is flawless. From achieving perfect marks, an ideal physique, a successful career, or a recovery journey, the "do it flawlessly" pressure seeps quietly and robs us of our happiness. Perfectionism doesn't equip us to be more resilient — it makes us anxious, uncertain, and stunted. Being aware of how damaging perfectionism can be and learning more constructive coping strategies can empower us to live more compassionate and satisfying lives.

Perfectionism may masquerade as ambition, but an underlying fear of failure or rejection usually fuels it. Instead of promoting healthy growth, it breeds unrealistic expectations that can never be met. Ultimately, the cycles of self-criticism will evolve into anxiety, depression, burnout, and physical disease. Instead of acknowledging small accomplishments, perfectionists often downplay their successes because they always feel that "it's not good enough."

It begins with the assumption that imperfection is not a flaw, but rather a human condition. Sincere goals, kindness to oneself, and appreciation for improvement, not perfection, can make a difference. Journaling and meditation, both of which are mindfulness practices, can also help bridge the gap between "perfect outcomes" and "real effort," as well as between critique and resilience.

It can feel virtuous to strive for perfection, but it ultimately estranges us from fulfillment. By being kind to ourselves and learning to embrace imperfection, we free ourselves to create a more vibrant and celebratory connection with the world. Progress, and not perfection, is where transformation happens.

Works Cited:

Jessica A. Kent. “Perfectionism Might Be Hurting You. Here’s How to Change Your Relationship to Achievement.” Harvard Summer School, 6 Nov. 2023, summer.harvard.edu/blog/perfectionism-might-be-hurting-you-heres-how-to-change-your-relationship-to-achievement/.

Michel, Angie. “The Dangers of Striving for Perfection.” The Emily Program, 2 Aug. 2021, emilyprogram.com/blog/the-dangers-of-striving-for-perfection/.